Everything changes when we tap into who you are and what you're here to do.

If we stop with the resistance and get one, this is where the answers are. 

I want to keep reminding you, even when your brain says, "I don't know," you do know. 

If you just give it time and space, plant those seeds, nurture and grow them, and give them a little bit of water, you will know and hear your intuition guiding you forward. 

Let's dive in. Let's talk about your intuition. Let's talk about your inner child and

Where do I want to start? 

Your inner child. 

We've talked about your nervous system. 

Your autonomic nervous system is built and hardwired to keep you safe.

That's to keep you safe from running into the road and walking out into traffic, keeping you safe from doing physically dangerous things, but also emotionally hazardous things, but also spiritually dangerous things. 

The only thing your autonomic nervous system isn't keeping you safe from is the thoughts you think. 

The thoughts you think, if they hold a meaning that is in line with fear to a big degree or a small degree, it doesn't matter.

If there is a lack of love, the absence of love, it is more fear than love, like 49 % love and 51 % fear.

It could be like that if you have more fear attached to a thought, it produces a negative emotion in the body. Not only is it a negative emotion, but that's the one thing that you'll notice. 

We notice our feelings, and we often feel our emotions before we notice that we even had a thought that triggered an emotion. 

But your brain has that thought; there's some fear attached, and it sends out a chemical soup, like from the nervous system. 

The nervous system is triggering hormones. 

A chemical soup goes out into your body that tells your body we're safe. 

We're not really safe, we're not secure, and we're in a lot of danger. 

Whatever level that thought carried, the meaning of fear is pushed out into your body.

Now, your whole body's doing the thing. 

You might, if it's really bad like someone's going to leave you, you've been cheated on, you know, the abandonment is high, you're about to lose your job, which means that you can't pay your rent, which means you're going to be homeless.

If the fear is super high, you may even feel tingling in your extremities. If somebody startles you, if they just burst into your room, knock loudly, or do something to play a prank on you, you will see spots in front of your eyes. 

This is your nervous system, which is hard at work saving you.

I was out for a walk the other day, and a friend who thought he was cute came up on my husband and me on his e-bike. 

We were walking, and we had music going.

We were talking and involved in a conversation while listening to our music, planning the day out, and not even aware of our surroundings.

This guy came zooming up on us, slammed on his brakes, and said, "Hey, harmless? Yes. 

My husband, who has a very steady, for the most part, a steady nervous system, was hardly fazed. 

He turned around to see who it was. 

On the other hand, I did a Roadrunner Bugs Bunny cartoon hour. I jumped up off the ground, levitated, my legs were going, nothing was happening, and finally zoomed off in a puff of smoke while screaming. 

That was how my nervous system worked hard at work. 

I have had trauma around loud and sudden noises in my childhood. That was my mom's way of intimidating us. 

That doesn't leave just because you're tapping into your nervous system and bringing her into a state of safety and security, and all is well. 

I do that every day, multiple times, because my nervous system was rattled as a child. 

This guy came up, spots in front of my eyes, smoke under my feet. I was out, and he was like, "I am so surprised you didn't say a swear word." 

You're lucky I didn't sock you in the arm because that was not nice. 

People who scare you, they don't know. They have no idea what your history is. 

If you startle easily, your nervous system is still trying to protect you in a moment of blindsided. It wasn't safe to be casual and nonchalant. 

You had to keep your head on a swivel and be ready because somebody might change the rules just to make you wrong. That was my childhood.

I'm just using it as an example. 

Maybe you relate, maybe you don't. 

Maybe your nervous system responds to other things, and it's responding to something that makes you feel unsafe or unsure of yourself, like being embarrassed in public or saying something inconsiderate at the moment. 

Then you wish you could take it all back because you weren't thinking about whose feelings you might hurt.

Whatever, like literally, it's whatever. It just doesn't matter; what matters is how you feel inside after the fact.

If you become super conscientious about your thoughts, whether they're based on more fear or more love.

If we are sifting and sorting through the thoughts we think about, and how they make us feel, the lack of love is more fear, or the lack of fear is more love.

We will get closer to tapping into our internal guidance system, which is our nervous system. 

When it is in a safe and stable place, it's really a good guide.

We can check in; we know, we understand. 

I used to; I didn't even know what that was before I was introduced to the workings and goings-on of trauma recovery through the autonomic nervous system. 

I used to have this ability, I still do, but back then, I didn't have a name for it. 

I told my husband back then, don't you just have that place where you can check and see if it's right? 

He's like, no. I'm like, yeah, because if you're like, well, is this a good idea for us? I'm like checking.

It could be a better idea to check. Yes, it's a good idea. 

I had that ability. I didn't even know what it was, but it was me checking in with myself and who I was. 

When you say I will take care of myself, who's I, and who's myself? Who are you talking about? It's your nervous system, AKA "Little You."

The child is either wounded or healed or both in the past.

It's the database of all the information you've collected up here that is sifting and sorting through your belief system, your understanding of what's safe and what's not safe, and your perception. 

This is not the same as everyone's perception.

You are just sifting and sorting what feels safe based on your experiences from your perspective, depending on whether you were three, eight, 12, or 18. 

You are going to perceive something completely different if your brain is more developed versus less, right? 

If you were a young kid and your brain wasn't all that developed, and mom and dad were getting a divorce, or something was happening, or they were unhappy with your performance at school or you had a fight with a friend,

You just didn't know how to process those emotions and how you felt about and perceived them. 

It felt like abandonment, or someone wasn't going to be your friend, or they were going to talk about you behind your back, or your parents berated you or shamed you or guilted you into doing better. 

Whatever was going on back then will still have a sense, a feeling, a flavoring, and a hint of things happening now, especially if we have a strong backstory. 

I was never loved. 

My parents hated me. I didn't have a father. I don't know how to be a man, whatever it is. 

The stories we bring to us are the stories that continue to unfold in our lives. Okay? 

I've told you all to bring this back to talking about your creative genius because your nervous system, AKA "Little You", still needs guidance, support, and security during those triggering moments.

It's not all the time, just when it has something to do with an underdeveloped part of you.

This person has a really clear understanding of where you're going in life, what your purpose is, why you're here, and what you're here to do in this very moment. She's actually an artist. 

I don't necessarily mean she paints, does pottery, or is a poet. It could be very likely that she's great at fishing or hunting.

I don't know, but she is a creative genius, and if you listen, she's trying to help you have more fun in life. 

If you give yourself a permission slip today, I will spend time with my inner child and get to know her because she was left out. 

She's out of the equation because Mom's complaint about you was higher. 

The outside information, the input that was coming in about who on the outside of us was unhappy with our performance or needed us to change so they could be happy. 

Whatever outside external influence was happening, we were like, got to take care of that because if I don't, it's not safe. 

"Little Y ou", that little creative genius is like, let's go out and play and make sandcastles. 

Mom's like, don't get dirty.

You're like, never mind, I can't get dirty. 

We're going to wander around in the yard, be unproductive, and don't like it, so we're not going to experience the sandcastle that we had in mind for ourselves. 

What are you doing in your life now? That creative genius is like, you should go, let's go. 

You're like, no, we can't because that only leaves us 20 minutes, and then I have to get on a call, and then I have to go pick up the kids, and I can't do the fun thing.

You're here to have fun. You're here to live with joy. You're here to express yourself fully. You're here to listen to the little creative one, your little creative inner child in kindergarten. 

They give you all the fingerpaint. 

You're like, wow, you weren't worried about it. Did I put all the colors together, and now it's mud? 

You were having an experience.

You're like, I have paint on my hands. It's amazing. 

You were just smearing it around, wiping it on your clothes, and we were not even aware that we could ruin the clothes, the painting, or even our own clothes. We could not do it right. 

We were just aware of that. We were just like, this is amazing. 

Where in your life do you do that? 

Where in your life do you still have that fun, playful, inner creative child?

I had to do it better than my mom for the first part of bringing five humans into the world. It got so serious. 

Then I was like, wow, my body looks terrible. I don't like the way I look on the outside because it's not a good match for me on the inside.

My inner child is like, I know. 

Remember when you felt so powerful in high school? I knew my dad; we were running track and driving a Porsche. 

My dad bought me a Porsche and bought our kids a Porsche to drive around in high school. 

That was what not to do for your children.

I'm not recommending it, but it had little headlights, a sun, and a roof and was fast. It was fun to drive, but it didn't teach me anything about responsibility. 

Anyway, I'm having fun. I have fun. 

I took my friends to the beach in the Porsche, and it was a lot of fun.

There was that bubble of time before I got out into the world on my own to discover I had no idea what I was doing, and it felt safe to be involved in high school. 

My friends were amazing people, and they are still amazing people, and they hung on to me.

I was just a needy child, anxious attachment, the whole nine yards, people pleasing. 

What do I need to be so you can all love me, even though I'm a disaster? 

There was that. There was some insecurity, but I didn't know it was insecure, right?

I love listening to music, driving the car, going to the beach, being a cheerleader, and running track. 

There was a window there that my social life was good.

It was after I finally could give up valueless. That was a nightmare. Not a ballerina gave me grace hands, but I just know it wasn't my calling. But I digress.

The point is that my inner child, at this point, was not loving my body and how it had just been put on the back burner and was like, let go per se. I finally was like, I know.

We're going to put on our headphones, plug in a tape on our Walkman, and go for a run. Yeah!

It just felt inspiring, good, and like something I wanted to do, even though I'm not a runner. 

I've said it before. I just wanted to do something that moved my body. 

That was the fastest low-hanging fruit I could think of. 

I was like, I got two legs. Let's do it. Why not?

If I had talked myself out of that, it would have been the same cycle I had gone through for the last ten years of I hate my body. 

I'm going to reduce the calories. I'm going to eat boring food. I'm going to, which will last for three days when I hardly eat anything. 

Then, I will eat everything that is not nailed down after that and be mad that the scale has increased. Like, what am I doing? 

That's not having fun. That's not listening to my intuition. 

When I was like, "It's just gonna be me and the cows in the morning in the starry night sky because the sun wasn't up yet and it was freezing cold," I could see my breath in the air.

I was just going to be out there with ACDC, and we were just going to kill it.

Well, it was not as I envisioned because I almost started a fire with the amount of friction between my thighs, but I gave myself a chance just to do that anyway. 

Just like starting a fire, it doesn't matter. Doesn't matter, doesn't matter. 

My thighs are rubbing—it doesn't matter. That's beside the point.

The point was, let's have fun, let's do something for Teresa, let's take care of you for a change because everybody else is the priority.

I didn't overthink it. I just let my creative genius tell me. 

She's just so smart. Your creative genius is so smart. She's infinite intelligence. She is the artist.

She's the one you want to defer to, not the outside world, not People Magazine, not what's going on in Hollywood, not what's even going on in the neighborhood, not what your best friend Click is doing, not like you're not them.

You're not them. 

You are you. 

There is only one of you, and we need you to be your best self in the world. 

Your tribe needs you to operate as your best self in the world. 

When you tap in and listen to that little creative genius, she will say, I know, let's go. And notice, are you shutting her down? 

Are you like, no, no, we can't do that. Or are you ok with that? Why not? I know you do that sometimes when you're like, hey, let's go down and get our favorite soft drink. 

You're like, okay. Only when you feel bad about it, do you allow yourself a creative experience. 

If you go down to Maverick and you get the burrito and have the soda, just let it be what it is in the moment.

As soon as you let off the resistance, it opens you up to say, "What else would you like to do today?" 

Then take yourself on a freaking date. 

Spend time with the inner child that got shut out in the past.

Every time you're like, I know you're like, She stuck her in the corner yet. Yet you will go on a date with somebody else externally. 

Some other person, maybe a child of yours, perhaps a husband of yours, maybe a partner, maybe a best friend. 

You go on dates with other people, but you have that experience with somebody else because you're trying to meet your needs.

That need is not to be lonely, to be loved, or to be validated. Perhaps getting those needs validated and met outside of you is a habit. 

What if you did that here with you? What if you tapped into your inner wisdom, your inner child, your nervous system, and your intuition? It's all one in the same. 

When your nervous system is calm, it operates. 

You can tap into that greater, higher frequency of you.

When taking care of myself, I am letting go of ControlZilla. 

ControlZilla is no longer the main operating voice in your life. Instead, she's deferring. 

She's like, "I don't know. What do you think?" I am taking care of myself, which means that you up here, ControlZilla, can be here with you. 

You're going to edit this out back to it.

When your intuition, your inner child, is the most, when she is the one you defer to, she's the default voice. 

You will not second guess yourself. 

The doubts that tend to run through your mind, should I, shouldn't I, go away because there's just one clear yes going on. 

Listen for the yes, for her to be the voice that matters most to you.

She is the artist. She's the one that's helping you create your life. 

If you've had a family, you did that through her desires, her creation. 

She's like, "I have an idea. Let's build a family." Like you've done that, she's done that before. When you're like, "I have a craving." I know a meal I want to cook.

She said, "Let's make a list, go to the store, pick it up, take it home, and cook it." 

There's evidence that when you have a dream, you make it come true. 

That dream came from where? Because if you ask yourself what sounds good, who doesn't have sound? 

You're asking her. You're asking your inner self, your creative genius that has the answers to the test. 

That impulse comes from here when you listen and follow your intuition, inclinations, and instincts.

What's an impulse is pulse like it's like your heartbeat.

The answers are here, and the number one reason you have hopes, dreams, and desires is that you have a contribution to make in the world.

You're listening here, tapping into that inner knowing, and I know you'll have to sort through all the reasons why you can't just come back here. 

Still, what if I can come back here and then say, okay, all right, I will make time to put paint on the canva,s I will make time to go to the store, or I will make time to take you on a date, I will make time to spend time with the one that has the answers to the test.

It's a beautiful and bright opportunity to get to know yourself completely.

You don't doubt yourself anymore. 

You build so much trust, respect, and confidence in yourself. 

We give that to everybody else, but if you give it to yourself, you spend time building it here, and you're on your way. 

Everything else gets easier from there.

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