I am stretching. I'm wiggling it out. 

I ran in the rain today, which is very unusual for me. 

When you get in the flow of things and don't overthink them, my ADHD brain is like, Oh, I just thought of 48 things I want to do right now, and then you don't do anything. 

I don't know why that is becoming so prevalent. I am supposed to be learning that lesson right now, but I don't; I can just go with the flow. 

Oddly, I'm dealing with this at age 57, but it's best to go with the flow. It's always in perfect timing. 

This is a lesson for me right now because the other day, I woke up at one o'clock in the morning.

My eyes were not burning; that's God. He's like, okay, get up. 

We got lessons to learn, and there's something about being in the house's dead quiet, where nobody will interrupt you.

There's no other noise. It's quiet. It's peaceful. 

The spirit comes quickly because this podcast is called Guiding You Home; I want to guide you home. So listen for the lessons that are here for you. 

I'm not just talking about my life to talk about me. I'm talking about my life so that you can hear you; your life unfolds as well. So going with the flow is getting up when you're called. 

If you wake up in the middle of the night, get up, just go. Watch the flow unfold. 

It seems that when the sun comes up, the flow stops. Everything gets hard in my head. 

I got up at one o'clock in the morning and was all right. What do you want me to know? 

There is this power in asking and receiving answers, expecting an answer. That is part of going with the flow. 

My coach, Kira Brinton, has advocated that we have a sacred creative space. 

Mine is mixed with my paints and art supplies because it makes me happy. 

I have this foam mattress on the ground, where I love to sit, all my pillows stacked up and fluffy, and an electric blanket. 

If I'm cold, I can also be cold and cozy in the middle of the night. 

I'm prepared, like preparing a space for the Lord to talk to you. There's nothing more confidence-building than being like you can go right to the spot, ask what is wanted, and receive the answer on the spot. That's what I do.

I go to my little sacred space with all my pillows and warm, fuzzy blankets. I ask what is wanted. 

What do you want? It's usually the other way around. I'm being asked, what do you want? 

It's when I ask what is wanted.

I'm usually pointed in a direction that matches my inner desires. 

Can you swirl this around in your brain so it never becomes what God wants me to do? 

He's like, I want you to do what you want, but there's always an underlying. 

The purpose is that here's an underlying, more profound meaning and pathway for you. 

The other morning, I woke up, and the word judgment came to mind. I was like, yeah, what is that?

I'm sort of blessed with the curse, and you might be too. Just listen to see if this is true for you. 

It's very difficult to go with the flow. 

If you're judging and we all judge, we're all just going to be judges. We are judges to our greater detriment.

But here's the trick. 

What I learned was judging comes from the brain if the judgment comes from fear. 

Fear and your brain equal ControlZilla. 

ControlZilla can start a lot of fires. 

Your brain is not helpful because when you live from your heart, which is where love is, love resides at the spiritual level.

Judgment can become an awareness. You can just watch things unfold. 

We're never going to judge. 

Judgment and opinion are friends, right? They're cousins. 

We always have this ability to make a judgment call or to form an opinion. 

It's usually based on our values when it's good for us. 

It helps us be discerning, choose the right, and increase the benefits in our lives. 

But when judgment comes from fear, it builds walls, hardens our hearts, and attacks. 

Your brain's defense mechanism is high. 

Then we point fingers, and blame comes out. 

All the ugly shows up, even if we don't have contact with other people and we're just thinking about it; what you feel about hurts you, too. 

What you think about other people hurts you. 

What you think about what's happening in the world that's scary hurts you. There's no benefit. 

You're not growing, developing, escaping fear, or operating from love. It just doesn't help.

But when you use judgment from the heart. 

Again, this is under the topic of going with the flow. Stay with me here. 

The judgment that comes from the heart helps you operate from love. 

Instead of trying to fix something or someone, you improve it. Instead of blaming or showing harshness toward someone or something, you see with soft eyes.

Instead of being anxious and stressing about how you will make things happen, which is control, right? 

That's ControlZilla. That's the brain. That's fear talking. 

You can trust judgment from the heart is wisdom. 

It's knowing that things are in their perfect timing, that you're syncing up with God's plan. 

Recently, I heard someone say as they were speaking to somebody who was just diagnosed with cancer, is it okay with you not to be healed from your cancer? 

It's kind of a shocking question, but it really turns the tables on going with the flow, like God's flow, doesn't it? 

If you get in alignment with what God has in mind for you, what your intuition can pick up on, where you can find the answers to the test, where you can go in prayer and ask, you can hear what is wanted; you get into this really safe space of not expecting anything. 

The judgment from your brain goes away, and you're not judging whether God's blessing you, whether he's present, whether he can hear you're pleading and you're praying, or if he'll heal you. 

You're not judging that from your brain anymore. 

I want you to just think about it: Are you okay if you're not healed? 

Are you OK if you're not successful? Are you OK if you don't find love? 

Are you okay with the disarray in your life? Are you okay with the triggers that cause your emotional system to be up one day and down the next? 

Are you alright with that? Can you accept it? 

If you can, then you stop trying to control the outcomes. 

You stop trying to make things happen. You stop worrying about what you have no control over. 

Your brain just relaxes because your heart knows everything is turning out fine. 

When you use judgment correctly, you also just fall in line with the flow of your life, path, and life purpose—all the things that make you outstanding and contribute to your circles of influence.

Here's a little prayer for you. I just found it. 

I wrote it back in February, I guess. I asked my coach. I thought she was like, did you help me write this? Or did I get this from you? She's like, no, you wrote that. 

Sometimes, we write things, and when we're in flow, we don't remember we wrote them because they didn't come from us. 

They came from your higher self, from that intuition and knowing that comes through the spirit. 

But here's a little prayer. 

Please help me see the flaws without judgment, seek solutions without fear, improve, not fix, see with the eyes of softness, wait for perfect timing, and be in sync with God.

That kind of feels good, doesn't it? 

All the stress and worry fall by the wayside. It's not, oh, hurry, hurry, hurry, rush, rush, rush. 

I hope I'm doing it right, I hope I'm not ruining anyone's life, I hope I'm acceptable, I hope I have value, I hope I am loved, and I hope I like everything.

If you're not in the flow, you will find that your fear is defending. 

You're defending yourself. You're overexplaining yourself. You are trying to get people to agree with your words.

From that standpoint, you must have your defenses up when operating in that. 

You're hardened. You have lots of resistance. 

I don't want to do this, and I don't want them to disagree with me. 

Resistance is not going with the flow. Resistance is getting in the boat and trying to paddle upstream, hoping you make some progress. 

Because have you tried that before? 

Oh, we went on a canoeing trip once. It was the most beautiful trip. 

We got in, put the boat in the river upstream, obviously, and got in the boat. 

We paddled for days, but in between, we'd get out and camp on the side of the river. 

There, we built campfires and cooked wonderful food, which was spectacular.

But one day, the wind came up. 

It was crazy windy, blowing us backward, even though we were pointed downstream. That's called a challenge.

Sometimes, we have self-imposed challenges. 

For example, we turn around in the boat and try to paddle upstream without wind or resistance. 

We fight and have chaos because it's normal. After all, we don't know how to live without it. 

If we just take a half-second and practice sitting down in the boat, we will coast downstream. 

It'll be a peaceful ride.

We'll be like, ah, shouldn't I be paddling? Shouldn't I be doing something? Shouldn't it be busier than this? This is too easy. 

But if you practice it long enough, it feels comfortable, and you don't want to return to the resistance you created by turning around in the boat and going in the wrong direction. 

Now, when a natural wind comes your way, a natural resistance shows up, and you're trying to get downstream. 

This wind is so freaking strong that it is not only blowing you backward, but it's blowing you sideways. 

You have to overcome this challenge. 

How do you go with the flow? How do you let fear take a backseat? How do you let love lead? How do you judge that I'm not paddling hard enough and not strong enough to overcome this? 

I can't make the boat go in the direction it's supposed to go. How do you remove all that?

We found the path of least resistance. 

Any little eddy we could find in the stream would take us down a little further. 

When it was so windy, we put our paddles in the water and let them hold us from going backward. 

We weren't actively paddling; we were putting a little resistance against the water so we didn't lose too much ground. 

Did it take us longer to get to the other end? Yes. Did we have a pretty good story to tell when we got there? Absolutely. Did we work up a really good appetite? We sure did. 

What's an adventure if you need a story to tell, right? But the adventures of your life—if you consider them adventures—can sometimes be intense. 

Just pull the boat out of the water, go camping, and wait for the storm to pass. Don't even try to battle white caps on a river. Just don't do it.

It's going to be a story later. It will be one of the best things ever happening to you when you are battling those difficult parts of your life with the flow of it. 

Go with the flow of it. It's not going to last forever. 

Anything that used to be a problem is no longer a problem. 

You just have a new problem because it's time to grow, learn something new, and get out of the loop.

The loop happens often because it's trying to get your attention.

Is this what you want? Are you sure? How about now? 

You're like, oh, okay. I don't want the loop. You'll have to figure out how to get downstream even when the wind's blowing. 

That could mean putting your body in the water, resisting it, and waiting it out. It could also mean pulling the boat out of the water and waiting it out on shore. 

It could be just paddling, and you agree with who you're in the boat with. 

You'll just give it a bunch, and you will make progress. 

The wind had lessened when we reached our takeout spot in the river. 

We eventually arrived, and the adventure was over. 

The wind stopped blowing. The wind doesn't blow forever, right? 

Even in nature, there are breaks in the wind.

But when you have that prayer in your heart, please help me see the flaws without judgment and seek solutions without fear. 

Please help me improve, not fix, to see with soft eyes and to wait on the Lord's perfect timing. 

Suddenly, you're not seeing the suffering because love can see suffering without becoming the sufferer. Does that make sense?

Fear is the sufferer. 

You can suffer unnecessarily when you're in the boat paddling hard, and you're like, why can't I get down there? Oh my gosh, this is taking too long. 

I'm going to run out of energy, and we're going to run out of food. 

We're going to get there after nightfall. That wouldn't help, and it wouldn't change anything. 

The things we do in fear just make us suffer more. But relax, do your best, and paddle. 

The wind will eventually stop blowing, and you can see the suffering, but you don't become the sufferer.

If you're in heart judgment, love can see potential and possibilities through the lens of softness, whether you're in head judgment or not.

Softness is going with the flow. Sit back and relax. There is no problem. It's not really a problem. 

You might not be able to make rent. You might be on the verge of a breakup in your relationship. You might have to switch jobs because your environment has become toxic. It's not a problem. 

Life asks you to shift, so if you are resistant to the what, the universe asks you because it would never ask you to shift if it wasn't on your heart to move.

Don't resist if it will lead you to a better place. 

Think about that. 

Pick something in your life. Pick something that you are like, okay, this is the problem. 

How much resistance do you have about it?

When we resist problems, it's high. 

Our brains burn down houses. 

The fear is defending. 

How can you let go and just go with the flow? 

Let's see what this takes you. What would happen? 

I can't tell you how my entire life was about letting go and seeing what could happen. It was good every time. 

It doesn't mean there wasn't grief, loss, or hard times. It doesn't mean I was standing in my way a lot, and it doesn't mean I didn't learn some valuable lessons along the way. 

But in the end, I am where I am now, and I'm better for it. I'm stronger; I'm wiser. I have some good humor in my back pocket about it. 

I have the wisdom not to do it again. 

Sometimes, when we go with the flow, we think it will always be good. That's not the point of life. 

The point is to enjoy the flow and know that life will cause you to shift again and again.

Don't get tired of it—just don't get sick and tired of it. 

Just be like, all right, that was hard. Okay. 

What I learned was fantastic. Who am I now? Better. Good. Then expect something else. Expect change. 

Sometimes, you'll outgrow people, which feels sad at first, but when the new people come in, they accept you as you are. 

They’re healthier than the last group, and you don't need boundaries around them because they have their own boundaries set, and they're healthy. 

Suddenly, you're like, wow, now I'm hanging with the right people. 

I have support. I have things coming in my life that will help me live according to my gifts. 

You have so many gifts. So many gifts. 

When you go with the flow, they show up. 

You have gifts on how to handle conflict. 

You have gifts on how to walk away when you need to. 

You have gifts on how to say, whoo, thank you for that closed, locked door. 

Cause now I can go open the one that's ready for me. 

You have many gifts, including wisdom, inner intelligence, spiritual intelligence, and infinite intelligence, but they come from your emotions. 

They come from your spirit, your spiritual IQ. 

When you let go of fear, lean into the flow of life. Just lean into it. 

Don't judge it from the head. 

Just know that it's different than what you've ever experienced, but look at it from the heart, and that will help you let go of the resistance and bring it on. 

Here's an interesting story. 

The bring it on thing brings up a memory of when we were almost homeless—digging for food out of a dumpster to feed the kids. 

I was unaware that there was even help out there. That's how you know that's the place I was in mentally. 

I thought to myself, What would I do if I were to get the help I need? Where would I go?

This thought came to me. Bring it on. 

We barely made ends meet every month. It was scary, and my worry was high. 

My fear was immense. 

I was like, I've got so sick and tired of it. 

I got a little bit testy, and ControlZilla in my head said, OK, bring it on.

Bring on the homelessness. Let's get it over with.

I'm sick and tired of worrying about it. 

That's what letting go looks like. That's what sitting down in the boat, turning around, and letting the boat take you downstream looks like. 

Because after that, we never struggled to pay our bills and provide a roof over our children's heads. Yeah, that was it. I just had to get clear. I was done struggling.

Sometimes, when facing those struggles, it feels like bringing it on is kind of egging on the pain, but it's not. 

It's you hitting your max, and you knock it off and stop playing with me. Either make us homeless, or let's get out of this mess.

As soon as you're done tolerating the challenge, everything gets better. That is going with the flow. 

Stop tolerating the worst-case scenario. 

Well, it could be better. That's not the bar.

You must sit in the boat and go with the flow—let it take you down the river. 

You don't tell the river where the boat goes—the boat just goes where the river goes. 

ControlZilla has to be quiet while your judgment, discernment, and opinions come from your heart. 

You're just letting love guide you. You're just seeing where this can take you and how good it can get cause it will get better. It will. 

So, you get clear. It gets better. 

If you know, it's like, okay, I'm trying too hard and pushing. 

I'm so exhausted and frustrated that I'm done with that. 

Guess what? Everything's going to get better. 

Just suddenly, you're in a new space, and you can feel the intelligence, the spiritual guidance coming from your inner gut, from your heart telling you it's going to be okay, helping you hear the answers after you ask for your blessings.

You'll start to see with the eyes of softness instead of wild-eyed, troubleshooting life from the hip.

Wait on that perfect timing because everything's happening perfectly for you. 

You're on your path, and you can't get off. 

Now, there are a couple of paths you can choose.

You can choose a complex or easier path, but it's still your path either way because you're using your agency to choose your path. 

But I suggest you take the one that'll ease you downstream so you can go with the flow. It's much easier.

I highly recommend it all right, until next time.

I hope your life is going smoothly, with some really beneficial highs and lows. Okay.

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